Why do some people torment themselves with the thoughts of they could have done better; should have said something else; would have responded differently if only they were better? It is because it is part of their awakening process. Most of the Lightbeings incarnating today encounters the process of letting go of all judgment. Although it’s easy for most of us to release the judgments of others, it can be rather difficult for some of us to release ourselves from the seemingly relentless internal dialogue of self-judgments.

In my work with Guidance I get to see the set-up of energy patterns and habitual thought patterns as they were put into place. Generally the people that I work with are advanced souls, so these are put into place as a way to clear or finish up past lifespaces and not as the beginning of a new experience. Set-up refers to the early childhood years and includes: vibration of biological matter including DNA, dominant energies present, parents and siblings, childhood traumas and other events.

Without fail, the people who come in really wanting the greatest amount of clarity regarding self-love incarnated with difficult set-ups where they were taught that what they wanted and who they were did not matter because they were worthless and grew up under heavy judgments of being wrong, bad, evil, a disappointment, a waste of time, etc. Each of these has a specific vibration and everyone has specific paths to clear these, but I’m going to address self-judgment in general terms to help as many as possible with this one article.

There are differing amounts of self-judgment going on as a habit. Most of it is done entirely unconsciously. Imagine a scale where the left side represents fully awakened people, those who clearly remember who they really are and therefore have no difficulty with self-judgments. On the other side, the right side of the scale, are those that were described in the preceding paragraph. In between, going from left to right, are those whom psychologists term as well adjusted to those who are occasionally bothered by self-esteem issues, those with more serious self-esteem issues, those termed as narcissistic, those who suffer deeply from shame and so forth. Everyone except those at the far left of the scale experiences self-judgment to one degree or another and will move back and forth on the scale.

On the left side of the scale you perceive yourself as worthy of happiness, abundance, wealth and whatever else you want to manifest in your life. Things come quite easily to you and you assume others like you when you first meet them. You move through life with relative ease enjoying yourself and others. Whereas the experiences on right side of the scale are generally the opposite, often including depression, shame, anxiety, fear and indecision. You avoid meeting people because of the pain of perceived or actual judgments from them.

To move towards the left side of the scale, first remember what judgments are. They are a mind-centered activity based on arbitrary rules or guidelines that you were taught and brought up to believe were true. Take for example the experience of young children expressing their opinions. In one family they’re encouraged to speak their minds. In another family that same act would trigger violence aimed at them. So from the perspective of the mind, the action of speaking one’s opinion, can arbitrarily either be right or wrong. From the perspective of the heart where there are no judgments you simply Know how to be clear about speaking your truth. The heart always knows that which the mind cannot possibly understand.

So for the first person, speaking their truth as an adult is quiet easy. They don’t have to be heart-centered to do it because it is just an expression of their personality. For the second person, the act of speaking their truth triggers self-judgment. In order to speak up it requires them to be heart-centered, perhaps through a quick Breathwork, meditation, energywork or being about another type of healing work first in order to remain heart-centered. It is in that act of choosing to stay heart-centered whenever a self-judgment arises that you clear the energy of your set-up. Not only that, but you clear the energy of self-judgments from the other lifespaces as well.

When a child is continually judged they take on that particular judgment and continue to replay it over and over again like a tape until they clear it. So even when the original person who judged them is no longer in their lives, the judgment plays out as a self-judgment. Going back to the child who was punished for speaking their truth, the self-judgmental thoughts would go something like, my opinions are worth less than everyone else’s or they’ll only laugh at me (a form of punishment) so you don’t speak out. Then you judge yourself as being broken or less than those who did speak out and the self-judgments grow.

There are many ways to help you get out of habitual thoughts of self-judgments like these, but what I’ve found the fastest way for those who are awakened is to stop as soon as you catch yourself judging. Just stop. Take a deep cleansing breath and center back into the love in your heartspace. In that love is complete acceptance of you and your actions. In that love there are no judgments. It may help to remind yourself that the judgment was just something that you were taught and that it is not truth and just release it. A judgment does not define you unless you allow it to and you’re choosing not to identify with the judgments. Another way of perceiving judgments is that they are all illusions. This is the perspective of your Highself, so being heart-centered always eventually leads you to the conclusion that self-judgments are in fact mere illusions.

Why this is so important now is that everyone on the scale experiences the mind-centered act of self-judgment to one degree or another. This means the vast majority of people on the planet have the vibration of self-judgment. During our awakening when we shift into being heart-centered, we begin to allow and express our Highself more and more. The Highself and the entire Universe only has unconditional love for all of us. Your Highself never judges you or anyone else. So those who committed this lifespace to self-love, who struggle with it on a daily basis are those who are providing the most assistance to all humanity as they grow and evolve out of self-judgment. Because in the act of choosing not to buy into the self-judgments you’re clearing not only your childhood set up and your past lives, you’re also providing a very specific vibration for all others incarnating after you. You’re assisting them to see themselves as their Highself sees them; completely loveable, knowing that there’s nothing to judge. You’re assisting them to love themselves as their Highself loves them, unconditionally.

It’s a moment-by-moment process of choosing to buy into the self-judgment or just releasing it as an illusion. It’s a moment-by-moment experience of staying more and more heart-centered and evolving. It requires great perseverance and courage and what evolves from these choices is worth it.

Take a deep breath and go within your heartspace now before you forget and meditate on the unlimited love that the universe shares with you. Join in the love for you by stating that you completely love and accept yourself. Know that it’s only the illusions that you were trained into believing about yourself that keeps it from manifesting and feeling true. For those who were abused it may not even feel safe the first few times you do this. But the more time you spend consciously being in your heartspace the faster you’ll complete the process of transmuting self-judgment into self-love. Every time you choose to disbelieve the lies about who you are and your self-worth, the faster that particular conditioning no longer is part of your mindset. Continually remind yourself that you are completely loved and accepted and that you choose to love and accept yourself unconditionally.

There is nothing to judge. The judgments that others placed on you were nothing more than an illusion that you can now choose to ignore or buy into. To move more quickly towards the left side of the scale requires you to be heart-centered, keeping in mind that all judgments are a mind-centered thing. Each time a self-judgmental thought pops up don’t chew on it, immediately return to your heartspace and love on yourself some more. Each time you perceive the judgment of you as coming from another person let it go, release that person and the illusion that they’re buying into. Know that it is just an illusion and return into your heartspace once again. No longer accept judgments of you. Make this your first response and you’ll move through the pain caused by self-judgment faster. Your emotions eventually catch up with your new thoughts and you’ll begin to feel the freedom from the negative emotions first, then grow into the joy and contentment that self-love brings.

Remember that this is going to be a process that takes as long as it takes because it’s determined by several factors: the amount of unclarity you’ve agreed upon to process while in body, the number and intensity of the self-judgments coming from other lifespaces as well as the intensity of the set-up where you were trained to do the self-judgments and most of all by your diligence to return and stay heart-centered. Be patient, gentle and kind with yourself in the process and it will not only be faster but you’ll grow into loving every opportunity to love yourself even more. Each self-judgment is a new opportunity to know what self-love really is. Not only will you know it and experience it inside and out, before long you’ll perceive yourself just like your Highself does; completely loveable and acceptable, always loved and cherished.

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